If you've ever found yourself desperately searching for the secrets of a perfect host, those hidden tricks that have you leaving a dinner party thinking, how do they do it? How do they manage to serve ...

Every time I stumble across the mess, I get angry. It is no longer rational, and I am even losing sleep over it.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.